Monday, 29 April 2013

Introducing Monday's Multiple Mum- Trouble Doubled #MMM


You know there's that person, that mum, that says what you're thinking, that gets in with the punchline, and you're about six months behind.

Let me introduce you to Trouble Doubled.

Whether you are a parent or multiples or not, just being a parent of a pre-schooler means Peppa Pig is part of the territory and this post just said it all.
As a parent of twins I was torn in half by this post, agreeing and disagreeing in equal measure (I dress the boys the same because I can't make decisions and don't like the limited selection of boys clothes).

Troubles Mum started blogging around the same time as me, and has twins the same age (by a month) as the boys, so it is great to introduce TM as my first guest post as part of Monday's Multiple Mums.

”Trouble

Who are you?
Blogging at Trouble Doubled, I live in the north of England, and have a business and academic background. I love TV and blogging, and shouting at people on Twitter.

I have four girls – aged 8, 5 and 2 year old twins.

What was your reaction to finding you were going to be a mum of multiples?
I wasn't shocked, I already half-expected it. I knew we were going to need a much bigger car.

What did you want to know?
Not a lot really. Having the multiples effectively as my third child meant I was confident we could handle it. Rightly or wrongly.

What was the best piece of advice you received when you were pregnant?
A mum of twins (who I met one day in a cafĂ© and was a friend of a friend) told me never to take advice off people who’d never had twins themselves because, in her experience, they didn't have a bloody clue. It has served me well.

What support networks do you use?
Other multiple bloggers, and the few parents I have met while out and about and at our short-lived twins playgroup. Apart from that, just the usual like family and local friends. The mums of our village school children have been awesome, especially in the early days.

How was your pregnancy?
Fine. No problems. As straight-forward as my previous two singleton pregnancies.

How did labour go?
It didn’t. I had an elective c-section at 38 weeks due to a previous c-section.

How did your other half cope?
Very well. He’s a great father.

What are your three best investments for multiples?
Specifically for multiples…..the double buggy. I have a MacLaren Twin Techno. Can’t get about with it.
Our VW Sharan. Can fit four car seats, two adults, and a double buggy in the boot. We had to sell our Vauxhall Zafira just for that little bit more room.
A v-shaped pillow for feeding.

What have you done as a mum of multiples which you never thought you’d do?
Write a blog. If I didn't have twins I’d probably think I wasn't special enough to have one. Having twins has made me more confident as I have become acutely aware of my own capabilities.

What’s your best piece of advice for the early days? (as in your babies early life rather than early hours!)
It’ll pass. It’s a phase. Things get easier. Enjoy.

How has your life changed, now you are a mum of multiples?
I won’t be going back to work any time soon. The child care is too expensive to make it worth the bother. As someone who enjoyed and excelled in her career and academic life, this is something that I am having to cope with mentally. As well as being permanently knackered.

At this age, what are the best things about your multiples?
At two years old? I hate 2 year olds. The potty training, the meltdowns, the constantly not really knowing what they want and just running round like headless chickens. They don’t even play with each other that much – if anything they egg each other on and wind each other up. Bring on the 3s.

What have your multiples done which have made you laugh most?
The vast differences in their personalities despite them being almost identical in every other way. One is loving and caring, and a bit clingy. The other is grumpy, and hates being cuddled, and tells you what she thinks of you in no uncertain terms. I find it hysterical when she has a little stroppy turn and the other one laughs at her.

What’s your best distraction for avoiding tantrums, arguments and/ or confrontation?
They understand the word ‘turn’ and have got quite good at taking their turns if there is something they both want. Otherwise I just buy two of everything.

In the words (sort of) of Wicked- how has having multiples changed your life for the better?
It’s made me stronger mentally if not physically. Life’s more fun. I can’t imagine just having the three children, or not having the second twin.

I wasn't planning on writing anything other than hosting guest posts.
But I have a fuzziness from reading this (and I know it wasn't Troubles Mum's intent!) but this is it.
This is parenting two year old twins.
I had the straight(ish) forward pregnancy, we have the Sharan... more so we have twins who are individuals, and for us- unless big sis is in the vicinity- the chances of playing together are like flipping a coin.

3 comments:

  1. You do an amazing job balancing your job and your family. Your family always look so happy.

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  2. This is brilliant, thanks for hosting me. Am I your first one? I', very honoured. Looking forward to seeing what everyone else has to say!

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  3. I wish mine understood 'turn' - even if we have two of everythign they always both want the same one! I love that yours are opposites like mine too. x

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